Daily Ramble: The Depths of Authenticity: Choosing Real Connections Over Surface Gains

Today we discussed relationships. What makes one authentic and what makes them surface level at best. In a world where curated perfection dominates social media and transactional relationships are disguised as genuine connections, authenticity is a rare and valuable trait. It’s easy to be drawn to surface-level charm, but true character is found beneath the polished exterior. The question is—are you someone who seeks out the real version of people, or are you just looking for a meal ticket?

The Illusion of Connection

We live in an era where it’s all too common to form relationships based on convenience. Whether in business, friendships, or love, too many people are looking for what they can take rather than what they can give. The pursuit of status, financial security, or social validation often blinds people to the richness of genuine human connection. But those who chase material benefits over meaningful bonds will eventually find themselves unfulfilled, grasping at an illusion rather than something lasting.

Seeking Depth Over Surface

To truly connect with someone, you have to be willing to see them beyond their highlight reel. Real people are messy, complex, and imperfect. They have stories, struggles, and scars that shape who they are. When you take the time to know someone at that level, you unlock a depth of connection that no amount of money, status, or superficial charm can replace.

The key to authenticity lies in embracing both your own truth and the truths of those around you. It means showing up as your real self and expecting the same in return. It means being interested in who someone truly is, not just what they can offer you. Appreciating the scars that make up each individual

Building a Life on Substance

When you prioritize authenticity, you attract people who value you for who you are rather than what you can provide. The strongest relationships—whether personal or professional—are built on trust, respect, and mutual support. These connections don’t fade when circumstances change because they were never dependent on external factors to begin with.

Choosing authenticity over opportunism isn’t always the easy path. It requires vulnerability, patience, and the willingness to walk away from those who are only there for the perks. But in the end, it leads to a life filled with deeper meaning, stronger relationships, and a sense of fulfillment that can’t be bought.

Be the Real You—And Seek the Real in Others

If you find yourself surrounded by people who only show up when they need something, it may be time to reevaluate the energy you allow into your life. Seek out those who celebrate you, challenge you, and stand by you—not because of what you have, but because of who you are.

Real recognizes real. Be the person who looks beyond the surface, who values depth over pretense, and who understands that true wealth is found in the richness of authentic relationships.

The world doesn’t need more people chasing meal tickets. It needs more people chasing truth. If you are one of those people that thinks another person can solve your problems, I hate to break it to you but that will never happen. Ultimately, no one can heal you but you.

"Be fearlessly authentic"