Daily Ramble: They Were a Lesson

There comes a point when you have to stop replaying the conversations, the what-ifs, the could’ve-beens. You have to stop checking their social media, stop rereading old texts, stop hoping for closure they were never capable of giving. Because here’s the truth: if you're still obsessing over them, you haven't learned the lesson.

They were not your forever.

They were your wake-up call.

Some people come into your life not to stay, but to shake you. To show you where you're still wounded, where you're still too forgiving, where you're still craving validation that should’ve always come from within.

You keep thinking about them because your heart hasn't caught up with what your soul already knows—they were a mirror, not a match. And mirrors don’t love you back. They just show you what’s there.

So ask yourself: What did they teach you?

Did they teach you how to trust your intuition?

Did they show you the parts of yourself you kept quiet to make them more comfortable?

Did they expose your tendency to over-give, over-explain, or overlook red flags?

If you're still hung up on them, still making them the main character in your story, then you're missing the point. You're holding onto the pain instead of the power.

Let them be the chapter that changed you—not the one that defines you.

You don't need to keep revisiting the wound to prove it hurt.

You need to let it scar, and wear it like armor.

The lesson was never about them.

It was always about you.

And when you finally learn it?

You’ll stop looking back.